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[jackofallgeeks]

At what point in a friendship is it OK to say 'miserable' when they ask you how you're doing?
How can 'I feel abandoned' be made to sound like a statement and not an accusation?

No one's been around. And Katrina hasn't written back to me. And neither has Amanda, who I wrote to at the end of December. And I talked to this girl Mary from CMS, and it was nice, but I got the feeling she wasn't interested in talking to me, and... I just feel alone.
And kind of unwanted.

And the explanation is always the same, because we all mean well but we're all busy, too. And that's understandable. But there's a little voice in the back my head that whispers that I'm just not important enough for anyone to make time for me. The fact is that nobody needs me. And I miss being needed.

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[metis2be.livejournal.com]

Oh come on, I really did need both hands to chop the garlic.

I'd call you more, but I hate using the phone. If it helps, I really really mean to, and I mean it more than I mean to clean my room, too! I do miss you though, it was nice having friends who didn't think that yelling out 'balls' in the middle of a conversation was funny. ::Hugs:: Maybe when I win that free car that can make it up hills easily, I'll drive cross country to see you. If you think that'll take too long, feel free to buy it for me ^^

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

-smirk- I said it wasn't an accusation. Kind of because I anticipated these sorts of responses. It's not your 'fault' I feel miserable. Truth be told, the blame is more on people who will probabably never see this.

[metis2be.livejournal.com]

I said that as a joke, actually. I call you, and the next day you feel neglected. This means I get to sit back and laugh at all the people that you're annoyed with, because thanks to that little call of mine, I'm no longer among those ranks.

I'm still getting that new car, right? Remember, I like blue...

[ambereternal.livejournal.com]

Now that's not entirely fair...you know I miss you...all the time! And I can't wait for the next time you come home. I feel sad.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

Like I said, it's not an accusation.

[masqerade.livejournal.com]

I miss you too, I can't wait for you to come back to the east coast. I don't like using the phone that much because the kids always crowd around me and get "needy" when I am on the phone and then I cannot have a conversation. I am home a lot and if you IM me I will eventually check the comp. I check very often throughout the day. I love you!

[elwenlassriel.livejournal.com]

-hug- It's okay to feel miserable, and it's certainly okay to tell your friends that. They are there for you to be honest with them. You are also completely justified to tell a friend if you feel like they are ignoring you, even if you know that they aren’t doing it on purpose (and I hope you know that true friends certainly never purposely ignore their friends). Sometimes that’s the way it has to be.

I know my friends have been getting on my case of late, because they feel like I’ve been neglecting them, and I feel bad because it’s true to a point. I’ve not been making the time I should for many of even my particularly close friends, unintentional though it may be. But I’m glad that they tell me, and all of your friends should be glad that you would tell them if you feel like that.

And I know what it feels like to feel cut off from most everyone. Granted it’s never been as long as you’ve been gone, but it affected me such that I know how hard it must be for you. Know that we are all thinking of you over here, and keep you in our prayers.

[intereoagnitio.livejournal.com]

"Life is easier on the wings on friendship."

I for one know how horrible lonelyness can be. Now, I can't say I know what your feeling, becuase every one exsperences things differently, one of the reasons I don't belive age is a legit way to determin wisdom. Anyways, I can say I know what it can feel like. I know the pain that you may get in your chest, the long nights of thinging how things could be, the endless unproductive hours, all becuase you have things to say and yet no one to say them too. I know what it can be like, and its not an enjoyable exspearence.

Now, I have always stood by the belife that things can always be worse, becuase it is impossible to reach the worst things can get. In a way, you could look at this and say "Things couldn't get any worse in this world" But then, you can never trully say that, becuase you can never truly see how bad things trully are unless you are looking from an outside prespective. "Hide site is 20/20" as they say, and that is very true.

While things seem bad, and people seem to not need you, they will eventually. And chances are, they will need you to a great degree. People always need some one they can cout on, if you anr't the type of person people can count on, then I don't know what type of person people can. Your my brother, and as such, I know a good deal about you. I may even know more about you then you realise. But the may thing is, life has difficult times, you just need to keep your head high and get through them.

[masqerade.livejournal.com]

You know I feel this way a lot too, and I am married and have kids. I guess I just tend to keep things inside too much. I can't talk to Shawn about Shawn, and there are some things that I want to talk to more than just Shawn about. Some times I feel a little depressed and lonely when I realize that Shawn is almost the only person that has time to talk to me and a lot of times he is gone working. I really want friends who know and are going through the same situations that I am going through(that makes it sound worse than it is I think). I mean the good and the bad. But I am so young and not many of my peers are in the same situation(I can't think of another word) that I am in. Oh well, just so you know you really aren't alone. I love you!