Dead Stars
Sep. 5th, 2002 12:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackofallgeeksStill Burn
"I can't just change everything about myself in some selfish bid to be with her."
I must say, Nifer is a good friend. I don't know if she intended it or not, and if she did, it was quite masterful. She made me look at things head-on, gave me the cold hard facts, and told me to live with myself.
Often, I think, you have to wonder if your friends tell you things just because you want to hear them. I don't think I even need fear that from Nifer. ^^;;
But you might ask what this is all about. You might not. In either case, you haven't learned about it through this Journal.
Claire and I are together no longer. On Thursday, in my room, we talked, and she informed me that she could not, with good conscience, raise her children Catholic. Aside from obvious religious difficulties, we disagree on a number of basic issues, and as such the situation could not be resolved favorably. I still love her, I always will, but we will never have a family together.
I must say, I blame myself. Or, I did. I don't know if it was a little time, or Nifer, or what, but I'm better about it now. I feel better about the situtation and my choice, because I've come to grips with the fact that, yes, it was my choice to make, and I feel I've chosen the only path I could and still be true to myself.
It still hurts. I still feel lonely, and afraid. But at the same time, I still hold that meeting her (and likewise Nifer and Mina and Amy) was too coincidental to be chance. It's happened for a reason, and I've come out with a good friend in the end.
"I can't just change everything about myself in some selfish bid to be with her."
I must say, Nifer is a good friend. I don't know if she intended it or not, and if she did, it was quite masterful. She made me look at things head-on, gave me the cold hard facts, and told me to live with myself.
Often, I think, you have to wonder if your friends tell you things just because you want to hear them. I don't think I even need fear that from Nifer. ^^;;
But you might ask what this is all about. You might not. In either case, you haven't learned about it through this Journal.
Claire and I are together no longer. On Thursday, in my room, we talked, and she informed me that she could not, with good conscience, raise her children Catholic. Aside from obvious religious difficulties, we disagree on a number of basic issues, and as such the situation could not be resolved favorably. I still love her, I always will, but we will never have a family together.
I must say, I blame myself. Or, I did. I don't know if it was a little time, or Nifer, or what, but I'm better about it now. I feel better about the situtation and my choice, because I've come to grips with the fact that, yes, it was my choice to make, and I feel I've chosen the only path I could and still be true to myself.
It still hurts. I still feel lonely, and afraid. But at the same time, I still hold that meeting her (and likewise Nifer and Mina and Amy) was too coincidental to be chance. It's happened for a reason, and I've come out with a good friend in the end.
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Date: 2002-09-07 08:57 pm (UTC)~La Nif