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Awww, that was almost cute. Key word is almost.
Earlier this evening, I was playing City of Heroes with Leslie, but my connection kept dying. Yay for the school network. When I finally got back on, she was nowhere to be seen, so I went about my business. Then, one of my in-game friends comes on, and we get to chatting, and he starts telling me about this 'friend' of his.
A little background: One of my characters on City of Heroes is Jessica, a female superhero. Specifically, the character I was playing tonight was Jessica. At some point while talking with this in-game friend, against my better judgment, I let more of the Real World than usual bleed through, and he found that I was a 20-something Catholic, about ready to graduate from college.
So, he tells me how he has this friend over on the Eastcoast (3,000 miles away, he noted) who's a really nice guy, if a bit over-weight, and he'd be upset if my in-game friend didn't ask someone like me if they might consider him for a date. 'Someone like me' reasonably being assumed to be a 20-something Catholic girl, since I was playing Jessica, and I like to run in-character.
This puts me in an odd sort of spot, and so I tell him I'm actually in the middle of a budding relationship (not a lie), though I *was* flattered and would keep it in mind (also not a lie, though he was to assume a different sort of 'keep it in mind' than I meant -- I wasn't going to consider it, obviously, just remember it). I *should* have left it at that, but I didn't really feel comfortable leaving it sit like that (I don't like being deceitful), and so I confessed that while Jessica was a girl, the Player behind her wasn't. And so he began to trip all over himself, saying how it didn't matter if I was a guy, or a girl, or whatever, he liked me as a person, and still wanted to play together. He went on to slip further and actually admit (as we all might have guessed) that there was no 'friend', and that he himself was the 30-something guy looking for a girl. I *really* should have left it with Jessica being 'unavailable', because the more the Real World bled into the game, and our in-game relationship, the less I enjoyed it. I go in there to wear a mask and play a character, to forget about Me for a bit and really become the Hero. I don't play a game so much as enter an Other World, and the bleeding just soured it for me.
So, yes, I've now officially been hit on my an over-weight 30-something. I kind of feel greasy from the experience (I mean, really, who would try to Find Someone through a video game?), and at the same time, I hope my revelation didn't ruin his night or anything. I also hope it doesn't sour our in-game relationship, because when he Role-plays, he's the best I've found in there. But, we'll see...
I can't even imagine how an actual lady might feel if she'd been in my position...
Earlier this evening, I was playing City of Heroes with Leslie, but my connection kept dying. Yay for the school network. When I finally got back on, she was nowhere to be seen, so I went about my business. Then, one of my in-game friends comes on, and we get to chatting, and he starts telling me about this 'friend' of his.
A little background: One of my characters on City of Heroes is Jessica, a female superhero. Specifically, the character I was playing tonight was Jessica. At some point while talking with this in-game friend, against my better judgment, I let more of the Real World than usual bleed through, and he found that I was a 20-something Catholic, about ready to graduate from college.
So, he tells me how he has this friend over on the Eastcoast (3,000 miles away, he noted) who's a really nice guy, if a bit over-weight, and he'd be upset if my in-game friend didn't ask someone like me if they might consider him for a date. 'Someone like me' reasonably being assumed to be a 20-something Catholic girl, since I was playing Jessica, and I like to run in-character.
This puts me in an odd sort of spot, and so I tell him I'm actually in the middle of a budding relationship (not a lie), though I *was* flattered and would keep it in mind (also not a lie, though he was to assume a different sort of 'keep it in mind' than I meant -- I wasn't going to consider it, obviously, just remember it). I *should* have left it at that, but I didn't really feel comfortable leaving it sit like that (I don't like being deceitful), and so I confessed that while Jessica was a girl, the Player behind her wasn't. And so he began to trip all over himself, saying how it didn't matter if I was a guy, or a girl, or whatever, he liked me as a person, and still wanted to play together. He went on to slip further and actually admit (as we all might have guessed) that there was no 'friend', and that he himself was the 30-something guy looking for a girl. I *really* should have left it with Jessica being 'unavailable', because the more the Real World bled into the game, and our in-game relationship, the less I enjoyed it. I go in there to wear a mask and play a character, to forget about Me for a bit and really become the Hero. I don't play a game so much as enter an Other World, and the bleeding just soured it for me.
So, yes, I've now officially been hit on my an over-weight 30-something. I kind of feel greasy from the experience (I mean, really, who would try to Find Someone through a video game?), and at the same time, I hope my revelation didn't ruin his night or anything. I also hope it doesn't sour our in-game relationship, because when he Role-plays, he's the best I've found in there. But, we'll see...
I can't even imagine how an actual lady might feel if she'd been in my position...
