Questions To Question
Dec. 10th, 2001 09:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackofallgeeksI was thinking t'night, something I dare say I haven't done in a while. Anyways, it occured to me to ask this - if someone thinks one is 'sweet', will one act in such a way, concioulsy or unconciously, to perpetuate that idea?
The idea can be passed on to include anything -'sweet', 'tough', 'mysterious' - the general form, I think, would be along the lines of If someone thinks a certain way about one, will one then act in a certain way to perpetuate that idea, and I think that it's a question of whether people's opinions of us define the 'masks' we wear around certain people.
In a way, it seems to fit with other ideas - it seems to me that people are afraid of change - uncertain change most especially - so it would make sense that if one is comfortable with a situation, they would try and perpetuate it by any means, and it would follow that one's behavior may be key in preserving the opinions of others.
This, of course, is not nessisarily a concious effort, as I believe many things which go on inside one's mind are not. The basic fear of change may simply force a behavior on one, in the form of subconcious urges, to where one WANTS to act sweet for those who consider one sweet, and tough for those who consider one tough, et cetera.
Now, obviousy, this creates a conflict, though apparently not a painfully obvious one. You see, it follows that if one is thought sweet by Person A and tough by Person B, and A and B were in the same room, how would one choose to act? This, however, may not be a plausible situation in everyday life simply because those who think a certain way of us are likely to be around others that think the same of us - either from first impressions or because groups of people are generally the same - a Youth Group in one case, work in another, and classes for a third. For some, Dorm Hall may yet be a fourth example. And so people from the same Group, if you will, will have similar opinions of us anyways, and thus incur no conflict of behavior.
This then brings up the question of one's good friends, those who presumably see one in many different situations and enviroments. It may then only logically follow that these people would know one the best, because the walls of behavior would nessisarily fall apart around them - or at the very least they would see through parts of one's mask, to the person who they know.
Of course, it may be argued that no one can ever TRUELY know another person, though I would counter that, while this may be the case, I believe one may know another to the point where the difference between the person they know and who the person is becomes negligable. But then, that's not the focus of this post.
And so, I come to the end of my investigation of this thought, again not truely accomplishing anything. And yet, it's satisfying.
The idea can be passed on to include anything -'sweet', 'tough', 'mysterious' - the general form, I think, would be along the lines of If someone thinks a certain way about one, will one then act in a certain way to perpetuate that idea, and I think that it's a question of whether people's opinions of us define the 'masks' we wear around certain people.
In a way, it seems to fit with other ideas - it seems to me that people are afraid of change - uncertain change most especially - so it would make sense that if one is comfortable with a situation, they would try and perpetuate it by any means, and it would follow that one's behavior may be key in preserving the opinions of others.
This, of course, is not nessisarily a concious effort, as I believe many things which go on inside one's mind are not. The basic fear of change may simply force a behavior on one, in the form of subconcious urges, to where one WANTS to act sweet for those who consider one sweet, and tough for those who consider one tough, et cetera.
Now, obviousy, this creates a conflict, though apparently not a painfully obvious one. You see, it follows that if one is thought sweet by Person A and tough by Person B, and A and B were in the same room, how would one choose to act? This, however, may not be a plausible situation in everyday life simply because those who think a certain way of us are likely to be around others that think the same of us - either from first impressions or because groups of people are generally the same - a Youth Group in one case, work in another, and classes for a third. For some, Dorm Hall may yet be a fourth example. And so people from the same Group, if you will, will have similar opinions of us anyways, and thus incur no conflict of behavior.
This then brings up the question of one's good friends, those who presumably see one in many different situations and enviroments. It may then only logically follow that these people would know one the best, because the walls of behavior would nessisarily fall apart around them - or at the very least they would see through parts of one's mask, to the person who they know.
Of course, it may be argued that no one can ever TRUELY know another person, though I would counter that, while this may be the case, I believe one may know another to the point where the difference between the person they know and who the person is becomes negligable. But then, that's not the focus of this post.
And so, I come to the end of my investigation of this thought, again not truely accomplishing anything. And yet, it's satisfying.
