I Have A Girlfriend Now
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jackofallgeeksSo the last two weeks have been kind of busy.
I feel like I owe you guys an honest update, but I'm exhausted so I'm probably going to cut corners. Sorry.
Some of you will remember that at the beginning of the month I ended up seeing Meghan again after a long period of not speaking. I was unsure of how I felt about seeing her before the party, but we got along really well during the cook-out and on the way home it occurred to me that I really missed her. A couple days later I noticed her "relationship status" on Facebook go away and, combined with the fact that we were speaking again, deduced that she'd broken up with the guy. In part, this contributed to my euphoria later that week.
Which sets us up for a hard crash last Monday. Discussing the way I felt about Meghan, a mutual friend reminded me that (1) we'd tried that before and it didn't pan out, (2) she'd found someone new, and (3) there didn't seem to be any problems with that someone new. Being as said mutual friend saw Meghan regularly and I hadn't spoken to her in several months (and the fact that I have a way of letting my hopes and emotions get away from reality) gave her opinion added weight, and I kind of broke down. I went to work the next day but felt horrible and took off on Wednesday.
On Wednesday... So, there's an application on Facebook called HonestyBox. And what HonestyBox does it let you send anonymous messages to people. And on Wednesday I got a message from a girl (it tells you gender, but nothing else) saying she wished she could open up to me more but she was afraid of messing things up. (I guessed here that it was Meghan, mostly because few of my friends use HonestyBox.) I told her (truthfully) that my general philosophy is that it never hurts to be honest, but that I find I bite my tongue sometimes for similar reasons. She said she'd be honest with me if I was honest with her, and I said sure. So she told me that she still had feelings for me but she wasn't sure if that meant anything any more after the long, odd trail we'd followed. I told her we should "talk in the open" (ie, not an anonymous message) because an educated guess was still a guess. -smirk- HonestyBox apparently lets you reveal yourself, which she tried, except the request would never load for me to confirm it, so she just said she was Meghan. To which I sent her a txt msg (one ought always check these things out-of-band, lest one be taken for a fool) asking if it was really her, and she said yes.
And here's where I break The First Rule of Dating: I sent her a message saying that I was in love with her and that I hadn't been able to get her off my mind since Elizabeth's party. And she was pleasantly shocked by my response: she hadn't really expected any kind of a positive reaction, let alone such enthusiasm.
This was last Wednesday. This past Saturday was when I was going out to Front Royal to see The Dark Knight with some friends. (An aside: AWESOME movie, the best portrayal of The Joker ever.) Previous to this Meghan and I had talked about her coming down to see it with us, and a slight miscommunication made it seem like she'd be able to, but she was in fact supposed to be down the weekend prior to and after, but not that weekend itself. Having determined that we were both rather interested in each other the idea came up again but we both decided it would be rather foolish.
On Saturday we (Josh and Elizabeth rode with me) get out to my friend Tahlia's house early and, being as I get nervous about movies, I grab her laptop to order tickets on Fandango. So I say there's the four of us, plus her two friends, plus Gene -- and she says, "plus one." Now, if she'd simply said that she had another friend coming I probably wouldn't have thought about it, but she very conspicuously wouldn't say anything else. So I wasn't entirely surprised when Meghan showed up a little later. She and I sat next to each other and held hands through the movie, in a very middle-school romance kind of way. 'Cause that's the absurd sort of guy I am. (An aside: holding hands for nearly three hours causes cramping.)
She said she wanted to see me again before she left back to Ohio on Monday, so I invited her to my uncle's place the next day (Sunday) for a family birthday celebration bit. For those who have witnessed my family's birthdays no explanation is necessary; for those who haven't, no explanation is possible. We had seven birthdays to celebrate. I introduced her as my girlfriend, she had a great time, and my cousin Tina said we made a cute couple.
She said it's only fair if I take a turn driving next time, so on Saturday I'm going out to meet her family. At first I was a little nervous about the whole thing, but now I'm honestly pretty excited.
And though that's not the FULL story, it's now very late and I needs to be getting sleep. So I'm-a stop there.
I feel like I owe you guys an honest update, but I'm exhausted so I'm probably going to cut corners. Sorry.
Some of you will remember that at the beginning of the month I ended up seeing Meghan again after a long period of not speaking. I was unsure of how I felt about seeing her before the party, but we got along really well during the cook-out and on the way home it occurred to me that I really missed her. A couple days later I noticed her "relationship status" on Facebook go away and, combined with the fact that we were speaking again, deduced that she'd broken up with the guy. In part, this contributed to my euphoria later that week.
Which sets us up for a hard crash last Monday. Discussing the way I felt about Meghan, a mutual friend reminded me that (1) we'd tried that before and it didn't pan out, (2) she'd found someone new, and (3) there didn't seem to be any problems with that someone new. Being as said mutual friend saw Meghan regularly and I hadn't spoken to her in several months (and the fact that I have a way of letting my hopes and emotions get away from reality) gave her opinion added weight, and I kind of broke down. I went to work the next day but felt horrible and took off on Wednesday.
On Wednesday... So, there's an application on Facebook called HonestyBox. And what HonestyBox does it let you send anonymous messages to people. And on Wednesday I got a message from a girl (it tells you gender, but nothing else) saying she wished she could open up to me more but she was afraid of messing things up. (I guessed here that it was Meghan, mostly because few of my friends use HonestyBox.) I told her (truthfully) that my general philosophy is that it never hurts to be honest, but that I find I bite my tongue sometimes for similar reasons. She said she'd be honest with me if I was honest with her, and I said sure. So she told me that she still had feelings for me but she wasn't sure if that meant anything any more after the long, odd trail we'd followed. I told her we should "talk in the open" (ie, not an anonymous message) because an educated guess was still a guess. -smirk- HonestyBox apparently lets you reveal yourself, which she tried, except the request would never load for me to confirm it, so she just said she was Meghan. To which I sent her a txt msg (one ought always check these things out-of-band, lest one be taken for a fool) asking if it was really her, and she said yes.
And here's where I break The First Rule of Dating: I sent her a message saying that I was in love with her and that I hadn't been able to get her off my mind since Elizabeth's party. And she was pleasantly shocked by my response: she hadn't really expected any kind of a positive reaction, let alone such enthusiasm.
This was last Wednesday. This past Saturday was when I was going out to Front Royal to see The Dark Knight with some friends. (An aside: AWESOME movie, the best portrayal of The Joker ever.) Previous to this Meghan and I had talked about her coming down to see it with us, and a slight miscommunication made it seem like she'd be able to, but she was in fact supposed to be down the weekend prior to and after, but not that weekend itself. Having determined that we were both rather interested in each other the idea came up again but we both decided it would be rather foolish.
On Saturday we (Josh and Elizabeth rode with me) get out to my friend Tahlia's house early and, being as I get nervous about movies, I grab her laptop to order tickets on Fandango. So I say there's the four of us, plus her two friends, plus Gene -- and she says, "plus one." Now, if she'd simply said that she had another friend coming I probably wouldn't have thought about it, but she very conspicuously wouldn't say anything else. So I wasn't entirely surprised when Meghan showed up a little later. She and I sat next to each other and held hands through the movie, in a very middle-school romance kind of way. 'Cause that's the absurd sort of guy I am. (An aside: holding hands for nearly three hours causes cramping.)
She said she wanted to see me again before she left back to Ohio on Monday, so I invited her to my uncle's place the next day (Sunday) for a family birthday celebration bit. For those who have witnessed my family's birthdays no explanation is necessary; for those who haven't, no explanation is possible. We had seven birthdays to celebrate. I introduced her as my girlfriend, she had a great time, and my cousin Tina said we made a cute couple.
She said it's only fair if I take a turn driving next time, so on Saturday I'm going out to meet her family. At first I was a little nervous about the whole thing, but now I'm honestly pretty excited.
And though that's not the FULL story, it's now very late and I needs to be getting sleep. So I'm-a stop there.
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Date: 2008-08-04 02:03 am (UTC)1. I am very happy that you are happy.
2. Are you really in love with her?
Nifer advises caution, as always. But I'm honestly happy for you. I hope things are and stay really awesome. Keep all your peeps updated.
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Date: 2008-08-04 02:49 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2008-08-12 12:29 am (UTC)Yeah, I think I should be around for a bit on the 21st. Give me a call and we can plan to get together.