Things We Say

[jackofallgeeks]

So some things were said last night that have been bugging me into today.

The particulars aren't important, really. It's sufficient to say that it had to do with Romance, and the strong implication that I don't know what I'm doing. Specifically, that I would be so blind as to involve myself with someone who would try to radically alter who I am, and/or control who I associate with. Put simply, I'd like to say I know better than that. Historically, crimes against my friends have been deal breakers before, as has been pressure to change who I fundamentally am.

Anyways. It's still bugging me a bit, mostly because it hasn't yet been condensed into something I can really express meaningfully, but I wasn't to say something.

Comments

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

Just curious, were these things said to you by a friend, family member, or romantic interest? (Not that romantic interests can't be friends, but they shouldn't be family, really. lol)

Meant to post this 13 hours ago...

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

-smirk- Depending on how you look at it, yes.
They were said by a very good friend who I was once romantically involved with.

Re: Meant to post this 13 hours ago...

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

I see. Was just curious as to motive, is all. I'm a nosey wench, you know.

Re: Meant to post this 13 hours ago...

[tzohekiti.livejournal.com]

well, motive was more of I dont want to see Andy settle. Ever.I want him to be with the best sort of girl for him. (someone much like me, maybe a bit less sarcastic, and Catholic :-p oh, and a redhead with an accent)
And sometimes he can be very romantic and innocent, and i'm a cynical bitch, so.... I dunno, I just dont wanna see him with someone psycho, much like the girl mentioned in his next post.
Now granted Andy isnt some stupid guy to go gaga over some stupid girl... but he's Andy, and I dont want to see him settling for something just becuase he gets discouraged or tired of looking.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

And, such as it is, this is all appreciated. But remember, I can be quite cynical myself, and if nothing else I'm too stubborn to settle. As noted, my love-life would be quite different if I were willing to compromise with myself.

All I ask is that you, my friends generally not just Anastasiya, at least give me the benefit of the doubt that I know what I'm doing and that I'm not going to be stupid about things.

[tzohekiti.livejournal.com]

hey, you know I do, if I didn't you'd be living in a box in my closet right now!