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[jackofallgeeks]

I want to give up on romance.
I think I'd be happier if I didn't care.

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[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

Many folks will tell you that as soon as they gave up on romance, and focused their attention elsewhere, that's when "love" sneaked up on 'em from behind. It's true too. It's like when you're writing code, and something isn't working. You spend hours and hours trying to figure it out. Finally, you have to stop to do something else ... then BAM ... the answer pops into your head on it's own.

However, giving up with the intention of being sneaked up on from behind isn't really giving up, so ... ::shrugs::

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

To be frank, I mean really giving up. I don't believe "just let it happen" is a valid strategy, because I've never known anything to work just by forgetting about it. You don't get a job by waiting for someone to hire you, and you don't write a program by figuring it'll sort itself out in the end. I just don't have a whole lot of hope these days; I'm a nice guy, and there are nice girls out there, but never the twain shall meet. (Not that I could really say why this is so, which is the bit that really discourages me.)

And this whole attitude really upsets me. One, because I hate giving up. I can't express it any better than that. And two, because There's nothing else I want, there's nothing else that drives me. My whole purpose, for as long as I can remember, has been to raise a family. I'm sitting at this desk getting ready for class because in the end I need a job so I can support said family. There is no other reason. I have no career ambitions, I don't want to be rich or famous, I just want to have a family.

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

Then don't give it up. Give it a break. You have your goals ... you have to do well in school to be able to get a job that will support a family. You will at some point have to decide where to live, where to work. Fine. Concentrate on the school part, just for now. Don't be thinking "It'll never happen, so I quit." Just think ... "Ok, she's not here yet, that's ok because I have to do this first." Your goal is to have a family and to be able to support said family. Great. Break it down into steps. First step, complete your education. "Find her" is an overall goal that does not have to happen in any particular order. Well, it has to happen before the "have a baby" step, but it doesn't have to happen before the "complete my education" step, or the "find a good paying job with benefits and security" step. I hope I am explaining myself well.

[surichan.livejournal.com]

I second the notion, in direct spite of my heart, which says, "Oh, but think of all the joy that romance brings! Surely you don't want to give up on that!"

But if feeling that joy once a month means feeling so much pain in the intervals between meetings, then I'm not sure it's worth it.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

As above, so below. I just don't have any reason to believe it'll ever work for me.

Though, as a note, I'd take what you have over what I've got any day that ends in 'y'.

[surichan.livejournal.com]

Remind me tell you one of these days about "what I have" and how great it isn't at the moment.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

Touche.

[tiel.livejournal.com]

I third the notion, and also send hugs. It'll get better!