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Andrew's User Manual
How does someone make you happy?
I like physical affection. Obviously there are the 'big ones,' like kissing, which tend to be taboo among friends, but as with everything there are little things, too, like hugs, and pats on the back, and stuff. Just physical contact in general. I also like actual conversation, the sort that gets beyond smalltalk and into actual communication of ideas and personality. Verbal affection is also a plus.
If you are angry or hurting, what should we do? what should we *not* do?
Be patient with me. One of the things I hate the most when I'm overcome by emotion is that I get a bit irrational. I'll say things I don't really mean. From experience, it seems I can be talked down, but as noted, I may lash out irrationally in the process. I don't really mean it, and I'll get over it sooner rather than later, more often than not. And, generally, I don't think there's ever a time that I don't want someone to talk to, be it to vent angry or to be pulled back to reason. Reaffirmation does wonders for my darker moods.
Are there things we should ~not~ discuss?
I don't think so. Somethings get me more charged than others, but I don't think there's any specifically-roped off area.
How do you want to be treated when you are sick?
I generally ignore the fact that I'm sick. Sympathy is appreciated, and it's nice to have someone concerned with making sure I take care of myself (ie, that I take medicine and get sleep), but I'd just as soon appreciate being treated as normal.
What do you share with others?
I like to think that I'm an open book. Some sections are a little harder to get to, and I've found (oddly enough, to my thinking) that it's more difficult for me to talk about my emotions than anything else. I also tend to keep to myself the things which I'm ashamed of, but I'll share those if asked (enough), too.
What do you NOT share with others?
The things about me and where I've been that I'm ashamed of. And, disappointingly, sometimes I bite my tongue rather than express to someone what they mean to me. I want to say 'particularly when I'm unsure of how it will be received,' but I think it'd be more accurate to say 'unless I'm fairly sure of how it will be received.'
Are there times of year that are difficult for you?
I don't think so. My life tends to be rather cyclic, or sinusoidal; if there's a more-stable pattern than that, I haven't found it.
Are there important anniversaries that we should recognize in your life?
May 10th is my birthday. It's odd, I think, that it should have the importance to me that it does, but...
Thanksgiving is my favorite Holiday, and must be spent with friends and family; the more the better. I don't know what I'd do if that ever fails to be.
That's really about it.
How does someone become your friend?
Ha ha ha. Talk to me. Spend time with me That's really about it. My friendships are built on regular conversation and shared experiences.
How does someone lose you as a friend?
You would have to try, I think, to lose me as a friend. I wanted to say 'or be particularly negligent,' but then, there are people I haven't talked to in years who I would have back in a heartbeat, so I don't think that counts as 'losing me as a friend.' I might even argue that being as blunt as to say, "it's been nice, but don't speak to me again," isn't even enough to end a friendship, at least not from my end.
Who are the most important people in your life to whom we should defer when making plans on your behalf?
Wel, I don't know that there's anyone, really, who you should defer to when making plans on my behalf -- though, I'm not sure really what is meant by 'making plans on your behalf.' As far as schedule-ties go, I'm rather autonomous. The people most important to me are my family and friends, with each bleeding heavily into the other.
How would you like for us to recognize your birthday?
-laughs- I'm not a 'party' kind of guy, at least not in the conventional sense. A smalish group of people getting together for pizza and games (and maybe a cake, if it's chocolate) is ideal, I think. Cards are nice, too. Presents are welcome, but not necessary or expected in any way. Even just calling me up to say, "Happy birthday, how've you been" is nice.
Are there standing categories of presents that would be welcome or inappropriate?
Erm... Money is always nice, just because I hate messing with it, and the less I need to be concerned with 'having enough,' the happier I am. I also like video games, particularly strategy and role-playing games, but the only 'gaming system' I have is my PC. And I love books. Love them. This is *probably* the safest choice. Next safest would be music (as long as it's not rap or deathmetal).
What scares you?
Spiders; I've never liked spiders. Rejection and abandonment; being alone in general, physically, emotionally, and otherwise. Being forgotten. Illness in others kind of creeps me out.
What are you most sensitive about?
My personality flaws. The affection I hold for others.
dreamerdevie. I don't think I know myself well enough to fill this out... Alternate suggestions from those who know me better (that's you all) are welcome in comments.Andrew's User Manual
How does someone make you happy?
I like physical affection. Obviously there are the 'big ones,' like kissing, which tend to be taboo among friends, but as with everything there are little things, too, like hugs, and pats on the back, and stuff. Just physical contact in general. I also like actual conversation, the sort that gets beyond smalltalk and into actual communication of ideas and personality. Verbal affection is also a plus.
If you are angry or hurting, what should we do? what should we *not* do?
Be patient with me. One of the things I hate the most when I'm overcome by emotion is that I get a bit irrational. I'll say things I don't really mean. From experience, it seems I can be talked down, but as noted, I may lash out irrationally in the process. I don't really mean it, and I'll get over it sooner rather than later, more often than not. And, generally, I don't think there's ever a time that I don't want someone to talk to, be it to vent angry or to be pulled back to reason. Reaffirmation does wonders for my darker moods.
Are there things we should ~not~ discuss?
I don't think so. Somethings get me more charged than others, but I don't think there's any specifically-roped off area.
How do you want to be treated when you are sick?
I generally ignore the fact that I'm sick. Sympathy is appreciated, and it's nice to have someone concerned with making sure I take care of myself (ie, that I take medicine and get sleep), but I'd just as soon appreciate being treated as normal.
What do you share with others?
I like to think that I'm an open book. Some sections are a little harder to get to, and I've found (oddly enough, to my thinking) that it's more difficult for me to talk about my emotions than anything else. I also tend to keep to myself the things which I'm ashamed of, but I'll share those if asked (enough), too.
What do you NOT share with others?
The things about me and where I've been that I'm ashamed of. And, disappointingly, sometimes I bite my tongue rather than express to someone what they mean to me. I want to say 'particularly when I'm unsure of how it will be received,' but I think it'd be more accurate to say 'unless I'm fairly sure of how it will be received.'
Are there times of year that are difficult for you?
I don't think so. My life tends to be rather cyclic, or sinusoidal; if there's a more-stable pattern than that, I haven't found it.
Are there important anniversaries that we should recognize in your life?
May 10th is my birthday. It's odd, I think, that it should have the importance to me that it does, but...
Thanksgiving is my favorite Holiday, and must be spent with friends and family; the more the better. I don't know what I'd do if that ever fails to be.
That's really about it.
How does someone become your friend?
Ha ha ha. Talk to me. Spend time with me That's really about it. My friendships are built on regular conversation and shared experiences.
How does someone lose you as a friend?
You would have to try, I think, to lose me as a friend. I wanted to say 'or be particularly negligent,' but then, there are people I haven't talked to in years who I would have back in a heartbeat, so I don't think that counts as 'losing me as a friend.' I might even argue that being as blunt as to say, "it's been nice, but don't speak to me again," isn't even enough to end a friendship, at least not from my end.
Who are the most important people in your life to whom we should defer when making plans on your behalf?
Wel, I don't know that there's anyone, really, who you should defer to when making plans on my behalf -- though, I'm not sure really what is meant by 'making plans on your behalf.' As far as schedule-ties go, I'm rather autonomous. The people most important to me are my family and friends, with each bleeding heavily into the other.
How would you like for us to recognize your birthday?
-laughs- I'm not a 'party' kind of guy, at least not in the conventional sense. A smalish group of people getting together for pizza and games (and maybe a cake, if it's chocolate) is ideal, I think. Cards are nice, too. Presents are welcome, but not necessary or expected in any way. Even just calling me up to say, "Happy birthday, how've you been" is nice.
Are there standing categories of presents that would be welcome or inappropriate?
Erm... Money is always nice, just because I hate messing with it, and the less I need to be concerned with 'having enough,' the happier I am. I also like video games, particularly strategy and role-playing games, but the only 'gaming system' I have is my PC. And I love books. Love them. This is *probably* the safest choice. Next safest would be music (as long as it's not rap or deathmetal).
What scares you?
Spiders; I've never liked spiders. Rejection and abandonment; being alone in general, physically, emotionally, and otherwise. Being forgotten. Illness in others kind of creeps me out.
What are you most sensitive about?
My personality flaws. The affection I hold for others.
