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May. 2nd, 2005 02:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackofallgeeksSo, this just seemed like something pertinent. I'm always a little concerned that when I talk about certain ladies, people will misunderstand, and this is just such an occasion.
I was talking to my friend Tink about how another friend of mine seemed almost-inexplicably contemptuous as concerns my relationship with Suzannah, and Tink said she could kind of understand. After a little, it came out that Tink thought it was wrong how Suzannah was ignoring me, with the understanding that she would go to Contra and simply and specifically not talk to me.
This isn't the case, and hasn't been the case. Suzannah hasn't been to Contra all year, though when we do see each other it's like how it was on Friday: we talk and have fun and it's all-around good stuff. When I say "we aren't speaking" it's because I have no contact with her. She hasn't been at Contra, and so we haven't stayed after to talk or go for walks the way we would last year. The most blatant not-speaking is that we haven't been emailing each other which is understandable -- I haven't gone into detail about how I think I behaved badly, but it was most apparent in our emails, and she asked for a break from that.
So, anyways, I don't think I've explained any of this adequately, but it's not the case that she's been ignoring me outright.
I was talking to my friend Tink about how another friend of mine seemed almost-inexplicably contemptuous as concerns my relationship with Suzannah, and Tink said she could kind of understand. After a little, it came out that Tink thought it was wrong how Suzannah was ignoring me, with the understanding that she would go to Contra and simply and specifically not talk to me.
This isn't the case, and hasn't been the case. Suzannah hasn't been to Contra all year, though when we do see each other it's like how it was on Friday: we talk and have fun and it's all-around good stuff. When I say "we aren't speaking" it's because I have no contact with her. She hasn't been at Contra, and so we haven't stayed after to talk or go for walks the way we would last year. The most blatant not-speaking is that we haven't been emailing each other which is understandable -- I haven't gone into detail about how I think I behaved badly, but it was most apparent in our emails, and she asked for a break from that.
So, anyways, I don't think I've explained any of this adequately, but it's not the case that she's been ignoring me outright.
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Date: 2005-05-02 07:24 pm (UTC)^_~v -Christina
Female intuition
Date: 2005-05-02 09:53 pm (UTC)1. I know of no circumstance (based on my personal experiences and friends alone) where a girl would be interested in a guy, yet would tell him not to speak or contact her for a long period of time.
2. I know you are very strongly interested in her, and your mood hangs on every word she says and action she does.
3. I can't imagine you would ever treat a girl you liked badly enough that she would need a break. Maybe I'm naive, but you seem too caring and kind. My instinct is always, always to shield those I care about from pain, and I see that in you, so it just doesn't fit that you would treat her badly.
4. I care enough about you that I don't want to see you depressed and hurt. (see above)
Can you see my perspective? I can remember times when I had a crush on a guy and it hurt so badly to talk to him and find out that he wasn't interested and wasn't changing his mind. But that's when I could move on. I don't know that this is the case, but it feels that way from my side, and I want to cry for you. I don't know. You have a better idea of what is going on than I do, at least if you can separate yourself from the emotion, but then can you?