A friend's a friend forever.
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jackofallgeeksToday's been a good friend-type day.
First there was Alyce being a sweetheart and saying very nice things about me and my attempts to be sure she's well, and such and stuff. It made me happy.
Then, just now, I spoke with Alison, another dear friend of mine who's been going through some rough waters. Specifically, she's divorcing her husband. I'll leave it at that, as I can't rightly justify it myself, so I wouldn't do her justice. I'm still torn on this point; my beliefs on the sanctity of marriage forbid marriage, but my loyalty to my friends confirms that she was in a miserable situation, and he was unkind, if not abusive. So I leave it as one of those times when it is not my place to judge, only to stand by my friends and hope for the best.
Not sure if any of that came out in so many words before, but... Alison has a LiveJournal, of course, and recently found that there was a leak on her friends list who was carrying confessions given in confidence back to her soon-to-be-ex-husband -- confessions and reflections she wanted kept from him for their sensitive nature. She just found that it wasn't one but three leaks. She's been quiet on Livejournal for sometime.
It's a touchy subject, really -- how can one even bring it up without casting suspicion on himself, as she has no idea who they might be. I asked her if she knew, and swore to her that it wasn't me -- I really don't like Him very much at all, and he and I had a rather... antagonistic first meeting, so I'm sure he didn't like me. And Alison assured me that she thought it obvious that it wasn't me (because of the foregoing facts).
Of course, not to cast doubt on myself, but in a certain light, and depending on what had been said, I might have motive. After all, would rather marriages were fixed rather than ended, generally... But at that, I don't think I would undermine my friend's efforts; if any thing I would try the direct approach and try to talk her out of it. Or something.
Ha, maybe I'm really not the prime suspect I feared I might seem. Whatever. She's getting out, and seems to be better off for it, so I wish her the best, and pray that it might be so.
(This is locked to protect both me and her -- He knows who I am, and I'd rather not her come slinking around my journal and find anything to latch onto.)
First there was Alyce being a sweetheart and saying very nice things about me and my attempts to be sure she's well, and such and stuff. It made me happy.
Then, just now, I spoke with Alison, another dear friend of mine who's been going through some rough waters. Specifically, she's divorcing her husband. I'll leave it at that, as I can't rightly justify it myself, so I wouldn't do her justice. I'm still torn on this point; my beliefs on the sanctity of marriage forbid marriage, but my loyalty to my friends confirms that she was in a miserable situation, and he was unkind, if not abusive. So I leave it as one of those times when it is not my place to judge, only to stand by my friends and hope for the best.
Not sure if any of that came out in so many words before, but... Alison has a LiveJournal, of course, and recently found that there was a leak on her friends list who was carrying confessions given in confidence back to her soon-to-be-ex-husband -- confessions and reflections she wanted kept from him for their sensitive nature. She just found that it wasn't one but three leaks. She's been quiet on Livejournal for sometime.
It's a touchy subject, really -- how can one even bring it up without casting suspicion on himself, as she has no idea who they might be. I asked her if she knew, and swore to her that it wasn't me -- I really don't like Him very much at all, and he and I had a rather... antagonistic first meeting, so I'm sure he didn't like me. And Alison assured me that she thought it obvious that it wasn't me (because of the foregoing facts).
Of course, not to cast doubt on myself, but in a certain light, and depending on what had been said, I might have motive. After all, would rather marriages were fixed rather than ended, generally... But at that, I don't think I would undermine my friend's efforts; if any thing I would try the direct approach and try to talk her out of it. Or something.
Ha, maybe I'm really not the prime suspect I feared I might seem. Whatever. She's getting out, and seems to be better off for it, so I wish her the best, and pray that it might be so.
(This is locked to protect both me and her -- He knows who I am, and I'd rather not her come slinking around my journal and find anything to latch onto.)
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