The punchline

[jackofallgeeks]

Something occured to me just now, which has never occured to me before. What if I can't have kids? Now that'd be a cosmic joke. The one thing in the world that I want, a family, made all-but an imposibility.

-shrugs- Just idle thoughts. Anyways, you'll never know until you try.

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[higheststar.livejournal.com]

I've had that same thought...made worse by the fact so many women in my family can't have kids past 30...

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

You're, what, 20? We'll say you don't get married till 22. That leaves you with 8 years, which gives you, what, 96 months? You could easily have five or six kids in that time. -giggles- The math says you could have 10, with a 6-month vacation! -laughs-

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

If you WANT kids, but CAN'T have kids, then you adopt. There are a gazillion kids in this world wanting a family just as much as you do.

[higheststar.livejournal.com]

You know I always find it so interesting when people say you just adopt...like it's something really easy to do. The family I know that is trying to adopt has been waiting with an empty crib for five years...

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

I never said it was easy. Nor is having children without adopting. I have found that most things in life that are really worth it, are not easy. Yet, they are still worth it!

[masqerade.livejournal.com]

I've had three kids amd found it to be very easy.

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

I have found being a parent to be the hardest job I have ever done. The most rewarding, the best, the most joyous, but also difficult.

[soyfaerie.livejournal.com]

Hey, I just saw your journal and profile at the LJ_Biz community and thought I'd stop by....

This can be a touchy subject...what's sad, though, is the reason that most people have to wait so long and have "empty cribs" is because everyone wants to adopt an (White, male) infant...

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

*waves* Hello. I'm Andrew, nice to meet you.

You have a valid point, in that the more specific you are, the less likely it is that they'll "have what you want," if you pardon my phrase. And, you know, the screening which they do do is necessary, unfortunately, because some people just... yeah, aren't fit to have children. And, on top of that, many people want babies, and are less interested with older children... And if kids aren't adopted young, they get older.

-shrugs- Still, I'm not sure how much of it is due to parents being picky, or to bureaucracy, or to any of the other stumbles, but still, the fact remains that it's not as simple as some might wish.

[emeraldove.livejournal.com]

What I find really sad is that of the couples I know that can't have their own children they all had to go out of the country to adopt babies. Apparently the paperwork here in the US is so indepth that it takes a very long time to get through. I know three couples that were all able to get their babies from Guatamala. I'm glad they were able to get a larger family started as they wanted but I do feel bad for the kids here.

*sigh*

Dove

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

I knew this family once who had all adopted kids -- five or six of them -- but except for one, there were all from different countries. Russia and China and stuff. Great family, though. And yeah, it's good that they get families, and yeah, the paperwork and screening that goes on here is, sadly, probably necessary, but especially when compared with the prospect of having your own kids (as this whole thing started with me speculating whether I might not), it's really a whole lot more difficult, and that was my point.

[mordainlove.livejournal.com]

very well said. ::claps::

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

Thankyew, thankyew very muchhhh

[mordainlove.livejournal.com]

like the above stated comment... there is always adoption. i know that isn't waht you mean... but take it from someone who has 'female' problems and was told that having biological kids might be difficult ... there's always adoption as an option. true, they don't have your nose, or her eyes, or blood ties. but somehow that really doesn't matter once you have them in your life.

heavens, one of the best most darling babies i've ever taken care of was an adoption case - Luca. and oh, how i wished he could have been mine. sigh... i miss him so much. not even right, i tell you.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

Oh, I fear you and Mrs Dawn have misread me -- you'll notice that I said 'all-but' an impossibility. Adoption wasn't ever out of my mind. that having been said, though, I have to say I fall more along Ms. Beth's position, that is, Adoption isn't as easy as we'd like. if I think too long about it, it's really frustrating -- so many kids wanted to be adopted, so many families WANTING to adopt, and somehow neither find each other. It's almost a commentary on the human state.

[otakulk.livejournal.com]

excuse me but I think thats a really funny thought ^^