The Problem With Live Journal
Feb. 1st, 2002 01:34 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackofallgeeksThere is one glaring problem that I find with Live Journal. And that is the inability to specifically refer to someone in your post, unless it's specifically in a good light. You can't say anything that could be conceived as negative, for fear that that person were to walk in by happenstance and read it, or someone who knows the person in question reads your post and is offended for them. Or worse yet, the person in question DOES regularly read your journal.
For example, I have this friend, who's not me. His name is Anthony. And he knows this girl (Natlia), who's not Nancy, but resmbles her in odd little ways, like the fact that she used to go out with, uhm, Anthony. Well, Anthony and Natalia had, at best, an awkward sepparation (OK, ok, she dumped him for her own set of reasons, and then hated him for near a year - it was rather messy. Luckily, he didn't know about most of it, so he really has nothing to hold against her). After their sepparation, a mutual friend, uhm, Leanne, got them back on even terms, and they were, at worst, civil towards eachother (oh come on, we ALL know they still were attracted to one another, but after a break up like that neither one would admit it).
So, after my friend and the girl back on speaking terms, everything was back on track. Until we, erm, I mean, until they went off to college. Then, either he changed, or she changed, or we all changed - you know how it is. I, uhm, don't think he agreed with very much of what she was saying and doing, and things slowly kinda dipped until one innocent enough event broke out into a big ordeal, and she... Well, to make a long story short, I don't know how I feel about her anymore. I mean, Natalia. That is, Anthony doesn't know how HE feels about her. Natalia. I said that.
Skrew it, you all know what I'm getting at. Me and Nancy were introduced, immediately went out, she dumped me for reasons I won't get into, it was generally messy, and then a mutual friend 'reunited' us. She had a new boyfriend, and I think it came out eventhen that I didn't agree with alot of what Nancy was doing. Now, certain other events have conspired to build on that, and try as I might, I just don't know what I think of her anymore. And that's what I've been trying to say.
(Yes, this has been staged - as if you couldn't tell. I'm not nearly that inarticulate, it was meant to be a play on the cliché 'I have a friend' line, obviously, and if you look closely, the first two letters of each individual's names did not change. I should have been Anthony, by all rights, anyways. Though I'm not so afraid to confront someone as to not post something, I doubt Nancy will read this, but if she does, I welcome her comments - as I said, I really have nothing to hold against her. My only fear is of offending Leslie, or other Nancy-advocates, by what seems to me a rather harsh statement on her. It's really not meant to be that, so much as get my cards on the table. The deal is now yours.)
For example, I have this friend, who's not me. His name is Anthony. And he knows this girl (Natlia), who's not Nancy, but resmbles her in odd little ways, like the fact that she used to go out with, uhm, Anthony. Well, Anthony and Natalia had, at best, an awkward sepparation (OK, ok, she dumped him for her own set of reasons, and then hated him for near a year - it was rather messy. Luckily, he didn't know about most of it, so he really has nothing to hold against her). After their sepparation, a mutual friend, uhm, Leanne, got them back on even terms, and they were, at worst, civil towards eachother (oh come on, we ALL know they still were attracted to one another, but after a break up like that neither one would admit it).
So, after my friend and the girl back on speaking terms, everything was back on track. Until we, erm, I mean, until they went off to college. Then, either he changed, or she changed, or we all changed - you know how it is. I, uhm, don't think he agreed with very much of what she was saying and doing, and things slowly kinda dipped until one innocent enough event broke out into a big ordeal, and she... Well, to make a long story short, I don't know how I feel about her anymore. I mean, Natalia. That is, Anthony doesn't know how HE feels about her. Natalia. I said that.
Skrew it, you all know what I'm getting at. Me and Nancy were introduced, immediately went out, she dumped me for reasons I won't get into, it was generally messy, and then a mutual friend 'reunited' us. She had a new boyfriend, and I think it came out eventhen that I didn't agree with alot of what Nancy was doing. Now, certain other events have conspired to build on that, and try as I might, I just don't know what I think of her anymore. And that's what I've been trying to say.
(Yes, this has been staged - as if you couldn't tell. I'm not nearly that inarticulate, it was meant to be a play on the cliché 'I have a friend' line, obviously, and if you look closely, the first two letters of each individual's names did not change. I should have been Anthony, by all rights, anyways. Though I'm not so afraid to confront someone as to not post something, I doubt Nancy will read this, but if she does, I welcome her comments - as I said, I really have nothing to hold against her. My only fear is of offending Leslie, or other Nancy-advocates, by what seems to me a rather harsh statement on her. It's really not meant to be that, so much as get my cards on the table. The deal is now yours.)
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'this is a hospital, not a department store..'
Not that THAT's a good mental picture. I see nightmares in your future! ::evil laughter:: Oh well. Sorry!
But if you did have problems and needed to air them, there is always protected entries (of course, I do these every single time) ... or there are selective protection entries, where you can pick and choose how many of the cool kids get to see the intermost corners of your mind. Fun, right?
I always get paranoid that what I post for, say, just Beth and Jennifae to read.... can be seen by everyone. Because I've heard of the system failing before. I guess it has it's own share of ass to work through.
^__^;;
(What I find interesting is that none of my social circle knows any of my 2 exrelationships. Two isn't a huge number, no... but the one has a livejournal and the other was quite popular in the 1990's. Go figure.)
Dam It Jim, I'm A Doctor, Not A Doc... Oh. Yeah. Right.
Date: 2002-02-01 08:20 am (UTC)I can see your reasons behind going private, but the way I see it, it's really not that helpful, not to me. It's almost frustrating, or deceptive, or something, to tell everyone else except the person in question about my issues. Even at this, with posting it openly, the possibility exists that she could come read it, but I'm not seeking her out for it, you know?
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There we were, just we three: you, your girlfriend, and me
Date: 2002-01-31 11:24 pm (UTC)Must say, though - good on 'ya for being brave enough to put this kind of thing out there. Cowardly little me couldn't have done it.
*Insert Clever Song Quote Here*
Date: 2002-02-01 02:17 pm (UTC)Again I repeat - I hold nothing against here, and it may well be she hold nothing against me. I will admit it stung a bit when she closed off her journal from comment, and I won't say I don't think it's ridiculous the way she's running the thing, but it's her journal, she's allowed to do what she wants with it. I may not know what ambivalent means, but I really don't hold any venom towards her.
As for getting this out in the open as both you an Mel have commented on, being myself I could do nothing less. I don't think I could make private any of my posts (well, except that one, but it had very little of real interest to say), and I'm not known for being afraid of confrontation. One may say I thrive on it. Sadly, the vast majority of the people I know don't like causing waves, so it's rare that I really get a good argument going.
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