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Feb. 6th, 2003 01:38 amSo, right. Wow. That's all I have to say. Wow.
Talked with Claire on the phone t'night. ^_^;; I'm such a dork, but it was really good to talk with her. I'd call her more if I wasn't afraid she had better things to do...
Like I told her, I'm sick of playing Uke. I wanna get back to Seme.
(By the by, I took a quiz once, Uke or Seme. I got Balanced. That's right, yo, I can play BOTH sides of the field! w00+)
I got back in, though, and Amanda IMed me, really upset. She said it was work or people or something, but then went on to talk about how her Boyfriend Fransisco was the trouble... That she didn't know what she wanted to do with her life, and that she didn't want to 'drag' anyone along... The thing of it is, he's not a citizen. He's a Legal Alien, but his time is coming due. This means he's going to have to go back to Mexico unless he gets perminent housing... She really likes him ('love' was her word) and doesn't want him to go back to the poverty hole that Mexico is. He wants to marry her, and that would give him 'perminant housing,' but she doesn't feel ready. it's not fair for her to have to make this decision right now, in such short time -- change her life-plan drastically or lose the man she loves. It's not cool.
I tried talking her through it, though I told her I couldn't give her unbiased advice - I told her that I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested in having a chance with her, and she knew that. I didn't tell her I thought he was wrong for her. I don't know him, or their relationship, but from what I've heard he just can't provide for her needs, not all of them. He's a good guy in alot of ways, but there are things he just can't do for her, you know?
And the small, cynical part of me can't help but wonder if he's just looking for a way not to go back. He seems like a decent guy, but...
We chatted for a long while about it. All romance aside, I really do want her to be happy. I don't think it's fair for her to have to make this decision, ever, least of all now, so young. And I don't want her to regret her marriage because it 'ruined her plans' for life. She seems afraid that there will never be anything better, and she should settle for the happiness she has. The idealist in me knows that she's wrong, that life can be everything you want it to be if you work for it.
I told her that, regardless of her decision, I'd be there for her. She liked that.
I like being support for my friends.
Talked with Claire on the phone t'night. ^_^;; I'm such a dork, but it was really good to talk with her. I'd call her more if I wasn't afraid she had better things to do...
Like I told her, I'm sick of playing Uke. I wanna get back to Seme.
(By the by, I took a quiz once, Uke or Seme. I got Balanced. That's right, yo, I can play BOTH sides of the field! w00+)
I got back in, though, and Amanda IMed me, really upset. She said it was work or people or something, but then went on to talk about how her Boyfriend Fransisco was the trouble... That she didn't know what she wanted to do with her life, and that she didn't want to 'drag' anyone along... The thing of it is, he's not a citizen. He's a Legal Alien, but his time is coming due. This means he's going to have to go back to Mexico unless he gets perminent housing... She really likes him ('love' was her word) and doesn't want him to go back to the poverty hole that Mexico is. He wants to marry her, and that would give him 'perminant housing,' but she doesn't feel ready. it's not fair for her to have to make this decision right now, in such short time -- change her life-plan drastically or lose the man she loves. It's not cool.
I tried talking her through it, though I told her I couldn't give her unbiased advice - I told her that I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested in having a chance with her, and she knew that. I didn't tell her I thought he was wrong for her. I don't know him, or their relationship, but from what I've heard he just can't provide for her needs, not all of them. He's a good guy in alot of ways, but there are things he just can't do for her, you know?
And the small, cynical part of me can't help but wonder if he's just looking for a way not to go back. He seems like a decent guy, but...
We chatted for a long while about it. All romance aside, I really do want her to be happy. I don't think it's fair for her to have to make this decision, ever, least of all now, so young. And I don't want her to regret her marriage because it 'ruined her plans' for life. She seems afraid that there will never be anything better, and she should settle for the happiness she has. The idealist in me knows that she's wrong, that life can be everything you want it to be if you work for it.
I told her that, regardless of her decision, I'd be there for her. She liked that.
I like being support for my friends.
