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jackofallgeeksThis is a comment to a post which can not be commented to. I'm trying to decide how open I'm going to make it -- I don't think it'll be Public, but I don't think you'll be the only one who can see it, either. That's not my way of doing things. Even in such a directed post, I really do want to hear what others have to say... Anyways, maybe I should get to commenting, huh?
You've hit on a big issue with LiveJournal, I think... That is, how can you have a Journal that's open to the public? As I voiced when this whole thing started, isn't the point of a Journal to have somewhere to say what you can tell no one? To write what no one may read? To share things that you could never share? But then, if you aren't going to share yourself on this journal, what are you doing to share? The surface. The only things which you aren't afraid to show to anyone. You will show the side that you show strangers. And you risk having everyone know you only as well as a stranger would. You risk very much seeming superficial.
I can't tell you what to do about that. It's an issue intrinsic to LiveJournal. And the more people you 'know' who read your LJ, the harder it becomes, I think. All I can offer is my own take on LiveJournal, which is in itself very risky. I try as well as I may to present who I am, as I am. And in this I don't risk being a Known Stranger, but rather, I make myself vulnerable, more vulnerable than I necessarily feel comfortable with. Anyone could come and see my journal, but at least I can know that the person they see is the person I am.
Trust me, it iosn't always as reassuring as it sounds. O.o
I don't think I follow what you mean, that he's all you have but that's not enough. I do think I know what you're saying about being cut off... About Alienating the people you used to know... who used to know you... But at the same time, you claim to have made efforts to change, to stand up for yourself and what's important to you. And as always, when you change, so will your relationships. Some, the better, will adapt. Others, either because of who you are or who they thought you were, will wither. ^_^;; I'm not very helpful, am I...? That's not the easiest thing to recognize, that perhapse... -shrugs- Not reassuring that who you are might not be who they wanted you to be, perhapse. But I would think, and hope you would agree, that it's better to be who you are than play the part of who you're not.
Things change, people change, and the world you once knew will fade away. It's not a bad thing, it's not a good thing, it's just a think. Life is change. But just because the world begins to fade or a relationship starts to wither doesn't mean you should lerave things to fate and dispair. You're right not to compromise yourself, but relationships can shift, and the world you know can alter as well. Just because things change doesn't mean you have to be alone.
Anyways, I hope this isn't the usual sympathy, which we all hope to avoid in comments. I also hope it's not too abstract -- I'm know for that in the first place, and trying to say something without really saying it makes things difficult. ^_^;; I'm such a goof. In either case, though, I should hope that, even if you do revert to the superficial posts, you don't neglect the thoughtful posts, that we might get a glimpse of why you are. I know I would rather know you as such and presume you are who you present.
Or something. ^_^;;
You've hit on a big issue with LiveJournal, I think... That is, how can you have a Journal that's open to the public? As I voiced when this whole thing started, isn't the point of a Journal to have somewhere to say what you can tell no one? To write what no one may read? To share things that you could never share? But then, if you aren't going to share yourself on this journal, what are you doing to share? The surface. The only things which you aren't afraid to show to anyone. You will show the side that you show strangers. And you risk having everyone know you only as well as a stranger would. You risk very much seeming superficial.
I can't tell you what to do about that. It's an issue intrinsic to LiveJournal. And the more people you 'know' who read your LJ, the harder it becomes, I think. All I can offer is my own take on LiveJournal, which is in itself very risky. I try as well as I may to present who I am, as I am. And in this I don't risk being a Known Stranger, but rather, I make myself vulnerable, more vulnerable than I necessarily feel comfortable with. Anyone could come and see my journal, but at least I can know that the person they see is the person I am.
Trust me, it iosn't always as reassuring as it sounds. O.o
I don't think I follow what you mean, that he's all you have but that's not enough. I do think I know what you're saying about being cut off... About Alienating the people you used to know... who used to know you... But at the same time, you claim to have made efforts to change, to stand up for yourself and what's important to you. And as always, when you change, so will your relationships. Some, the better, will adapt. Others, either because of who you are or who they thought you were, will wither. ^_^;; I'm not very helpful, am I...? That's not the easiest thing to recognize, that perhapse... -shrugs- Not reassuring that who you are might not be who they wanted you to be, perhapse. But I would think, and hope you would agree, that it's better to be who you are than play the part of who you're not.
Things change, people change, and the world you once knew will fade away. It's not a bad thing, it's not a good thing, it's just a think. Life is change. But just because the world begins to fade or a relationship starts to wither doesn't mean you should lerave things to fate and dispair. You're right not to compromise yourself, but relationships can shift, and the world you know can alter as well. Just because things change doesn't mean you have to be alone.
Anyways, I hope this isn't the usual sympathy, which we all hope to avoid in comments. I also hope it's not too abstract -- I'm know for that in the first place, and trying to say something without really saying it makes things difficult. ^_^;; I'm such a goof. In either case, though, I should hope that, even if you do revert to the superficial posts, you don't neglect the thoughtful posts, that we might get a glimpse of why you are. I know I would rather know you as such and presume you are who you present.
Or something. ^_^;;
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or something. it's late, i'm tired, etc etc.
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Date: 2003-04-14 09:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-04-14 09:49 am (UTC)Hope everything goes OK.