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Mar. 18th, 2003 02:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackofallgeeksOne thing that I enjoy about Kincaid, and I admit is likely what drew me in the first place, is that she can often times put into words those things which I stumble over inside my head, let alone on my tongue. Recently she made one such post, though sadly she locked it, or I would link there for Reference. Doing so would only suit myself, however, and possibly those few other friends of hers who might find my journal.
In any case, she had been inspired by a colleague's comments on 'social-niceties' and our preoccupation with the opinions of others. I myself claim to be unconcerned with what people think of me, but the lie in that is told by the myriad collection of things I often find myself 'unable' to say. Which is the exact point that Kincaid was touching on.
There were two comments when I read it, one from Koogrr and one from LivingFire. Koogrr made the point, which I've encountered before, that you must ask what the telling would accomplish. If the person can not or will not act on the information provided, then it's a useless effort. LivingFire underlined Koogrr's key points, quoting the like "Honesty, without compassion, is brutality," which I have also heard before, and is really the key determinant to how 'Honest' I try to be with people. I'm a big advocate of being truthful, but I haven't yet found that balance between cold-truth and needed-compassion.
Anyways, I just felt I wanted to say something on the subject in my journal.
In any case, she had been inspired by a colleague's comments on 'social-niceties' and our preoccupation with the opinions of others. I myself claim to be unconcerned with what people think of me, but the lie in that is told by the myriad collection of things I often find myself 'unable' to say. Which is the exact point that Kincaid was touching on.
There were two comments when I read it, one from Koogrr and one from LivingFire. Koogrr made the point, which I've encountered before, that you must ask what the telling would accomplish. If the person can not or will not act on the information provided, then it's a useless effort. LivingFire underlined Koogrr's key points, quoting the like "Honesty, without compassion, is brutality," which I have also heard before, and is really the key determinant to how 'Honest' I try to be with people. I'm a big advocate of being truthful, but I haven't yet found that balance between cold-truth and needed-compassion.
Anyways, I just felt I wanted to say something on the subject in my journal.
