Outnumbered-ness

[jackofallgeeks]

*Sigh*
I'm feeling outnumbered.
You see, I've come upon a realization.

All my friends are metalheads.
Er, I mean, liberals.


Please, none of you take this as a personal assault on your beliefs, assumptions, et cetera. I don't mean that everyone I talk to is a far left-winger, and at least a couple of you I can truely agree with. But, I'm feeling kinda overcome, and as per my style, I'm blowwing it out of proportion. To explain, I'll try and make this as objective as possible.

You see, with the great majority of my friends, I disagree with them on alot of issues, and while not all of them proclaim to be liberals in the political sense, but in the sense of liberal vs. concervative....maybe I'm just too far right.

Let me see...In one sense, alot of my friends claim to be "open-minded." Now then, I'm not SURE of what this claim entails, but it seems to me to pretty much be "do what you want, when you want, how you want - if it makes you happy, who's to say it's wrong?" Call me close-minded if you want, but I don't believe that. I think things can be wrong, in and of themselves, and that it's wrong for anyone to partake of that. You must all know, though, that I don't have anything against anyone individually - people aren't bad, but their actions can be.

Along those lines, I think I can say that "open-mindedness" can be a bad thing. No, I think in that sense, it IS a bad thing. Since some things ARE wrong, no one should do them, and encouraging people to because it makes them feel good is also not good. Pleasure, my friends, is not the end-all be-all.

There's more I can say....How I don't think that equality is such a great good, so much as fairness. But I would have to define those terms - that being that equality is everyone, regardless, is treated the same. Period. And I don't think that's right. Where as fairness should be people get what they deserve, what's due to them. our society fights for equality when I think we should be concerned with fairness. Call me an Aristocrat - I prolly am.

Mind you, though - I said I felt outnumbered, but I like to imagine that I'm still outnumbered by friends.


A friend today was talking with me today and Claire came up, since she's comming to visit (*Beams* The happies). Of course, the whole thing was gone through, and the guy looked at me weird and said "Go for it - love doesn't just come around every day."

I agree with him. And yet I disagree as well. I'm good at that. You see, you first have to understand that, in a sense, I truely fear the word "love." It usually doesn't mean what it should, it's often confusing and vague, and it just gets tossed around too much. a friend of mine has a long list of ex-boyfriends, and everyone who she's ever been with she had claimed to love. I don't believe it can be that fickle. My first girlfriend and I used the word a bit ourselves. Mayhaps my hesitation towards the word is the one thing that remains from my time with Julia. In that sense, I guess, one could say I treasure it.

But that's besides the point. You see, I do believethat love isn't something that just "comes along every day." Love isn't something that just happens, at all. It's something you Will, something you MAKE happen. Love isn't a feeling, it's not an emotion - love is an ACT. A crush, an infatuation, that is a feeling. It's nice to think about, someone 'liking' you, but does it really mean anything? A friend of mine might be quoted as saying she'd liked a guy, but not known why. that's an emotion, and we have little control over our emotions, if any.

But Love. Love is an act. For someone to love you, they have to make a concious, willing, effort (for all act takes effort). To think that someone loves you, that someone wills something like that, means so much more than if someone 'likes' you, or is angry of you, or jealous, or other basic emotions. Love is definately something higher, something more, something wondrous.

So I feel it should be treated with the respect it deserves.
Note that this doesn't mean I'm giving up on Claire by any streach of the imagination, as my friend seemed to think. I do care for Claire, but needless to say, I do believe, we're talking about a big decision here, aren't we? Baby steps, sir. Baby steps.

And, with that, I leave you with a few words from Spooky (ok, ok, just one).
"Squeek."

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Daoism equals chaos...

[serenabuny.livejournal.com]

^_^ We'll have to go into liberalness when I come up. "do what you want, when you want, how you want - if it makes you happy, who's to say it's wrong?" This is not the whole idea of open-mindedness at all. That's having no moral values or common sense ^_^. But we'll get into that later, right now I have symphony rehearsal and exams to study for. Hope you had a great day!...