Bad Idea

[jackofallgeeks]

I need someone (everyone?) to remind me why trying to get back in touch with
Suzannah would be a Bad Idea (tm).

Comments

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

If that's not reason enough, let me know, I can be meaner.

Don't, you'll just make me angry.

[metis2be.livejournal.com]

I have a feeling I already have made you angry.

I just don't want to see you get hurt. I stood by and read all the angsty posts you made about her and I saw how much pain she caused you before, and I don't want to see you go through that again because I really care about you. You have a habit of caring for people quickly and because of that when you get dealt a shit hand you take it harder than some people. With the way she left things I can't imagine it would go well and you'd be just as hurt as you were back then and I just don't think it's for the best. I know I'm not your closest friend and that my opinion isn't the most important one, but I hope you'll take some of this into consideration when you make your decision.

And that was what I was going to say before, I was just going to sound angrier when I said it.

[laurelei28.livejournal.com]

simply for the fact that you think its a bad idea- its a bad idea. From what i recall it was something that hurt you greatly - for a really *long* time - and frankly - if she's not banging down your door- let her go. You deserve better than to be treated like that.

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

First, you unfairly minimize your importance to me. Quite a few of my friends do this. Please don't. you're a good friend and I take your opinion into consideration at least as much as anyone else's.

Second, you didn't make me angry just... tread on an old wound. I don't like people being mean to each other. I don't like people saying mean things about people they don't know. I don't like people saying mean things to people I care about -- and mistreated or no, Suzannah was a friend of mine and I do still care for her.

And yeah, you're right, I did get hurt a lot, and you're more than right for not wanting me to get hurt again. The trouble is that almost 100% of what you know about her is from things I said when trying to deal with that pain. You weren't there to see me when we were together and I was happy. Someone who only read my posts dealing with my breakup with Claire would get a similar impression, but that ignores all the really great things about Claire (let alone that ours was an amiable break-up; I just hurt easily, like you said).

Personally, I'd rather act and be hurt than not-act and always wonder. Life is pain; anyone who says otherwise is selling something.