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John Noble ([personal profile] jackofallgeeks) wrote2002-06-21 10:29 am

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For quite a while, as evidenced by my Journal, I haven't had anything to talk about. in fact, for some time, I've felt at a great loss for anything of interest to say to anyone. Generally, I would hypothesis that it has something to do with the unfamiliar enviroment, and my desire for everything "just to be normal again." But that's neither here nor there.

Ann Landers, Dear Abbey, Miss Manners - and many more. This is the legion of Syndicated Advice-Givers found in newpapers, daily, across the country. I've come into the habit of reading them. Anyways, I've found that, for the most part, they offer semi-sound advice. Recently, however, I've decided that I don't agree with them very much at all, and feel they've been handing out some sour advice.

Some are, of course, better than others. I refer here, in most part, to Ann Landers and Dear Abbey. However, today there was a piece of interest, which I haven't made a decision on.

A lady wrote in, 37 year old mother of four, but that's inconsequential. She wrote in saying how she'd voiced to her husband an attraction to a male friend of theirs. Apparently needless to say, her husband took it poorly. She'd asked for one bit of advice (something about how to get her mother off her back) but the advice given was of the different sort - it was questioned why she would voice attraction to another man. She (the lady) had mentioned that she used to feel confortable voicing her emotions to her husband.

And so, here's my question. To what point is one to be honest? Is it true that complete honesty is a selfish act? As for myself and many of my friends, I know we claim "honesty is the best policy," but it also seems apparent that 'honesty' can be damaging. Any thoughts?

[identity profile] bluepalmtree.livejournal.com 2002-06-21 03:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree that if they are married nothing should happen. If it was me, nothing would. Some people are different though. If she really loves her husband and knows that she can stop herself then she didn't need to tell him but not all people are like that. I think that if she told him it's because she felt something serious for the other person and in that case, it would be wrong to let her husband go on believing that everything was perfect. It's sad that she was married and ended up falling for another guy, that shows it wasn't a true marriage. I agree that the truth would hurt but people get hurt in life, everyone does, that's the way it is! As they say "the ugly truth is better than a pretty lie." He could make himself happy by believing he was the only one but she knows the real world is different. He would've ended up getting hurt somehow anyway.