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[jackofallgeeks]

For quite a while, as evidenced by my Journal, I haven't had anything to talk about. in fact, for some time, I've felt at a great loss for anything of interest to say to anyone. Generally, I would hypothesis that it has something to do with the unfamiliar enviroment, and my desire for everything "just to be normal again." But that's neither here nor there.

Ann Landers, Dear Abbey, Miss Manners - and many more. This is the legion of Syndicated Advice-Givers found in newpapers, daily, across the country. I've come into the habit of reading them. Anyways, I've found that, for the most part, they offer semi-sound advice. Recently, however, I've decided that I don't agree with them very much at all, and feel they've been handing out some sour advice.

Some are, of course, better than others. I refer here, in most part, to Ann Landers and Dear Abbey. However, today there was a piece of interest, which I haven't made a decision on.

A lady wrote in, 37 year old mother of four, but that's inconsequential. She wrote in saying how she'd voiced to her husband an attraction to a male friend of theirs. Apparently needless to say, her husband took it poorly. She'd asked for one bit of advice (something about how to get her mother off her back) but the advice given was of the different sort - it was questioned why she would voice attraction to another man. She (the lady) had mentioned that she used to feel confortable voicing her emotions to her husband.

And so, here's my question. To what point is one to be honest? Is it true that complete honesty is a selfish act? As for myself and many of my friends, I know we claim "honesty is the best policy," but it also seems apparent that 'honesty' can be damaging. Any thoughts?

Comments

[bluepalmtree.livejournal.com]

I personally think it's better that she did tell her husband because it would be wrong to let him think he's the only one when she's got her eyes on someone else. Also because if something were to happen with this other male and the husband found out he would probably be even more hurt than if she would have just told him. The situation is just bad in the firstplace but I like to tell the trust no matter what so I would've done the same in her situation. In the long run, he'll probably apprchiate that she didn't lie to him.

That's a toughie...

[starlight1184.livejournal.com]

The age old question... do you really tell your friend how she looks when she gets a horrible hair cut, or do you tell her she looks good to make her feel *that* much better about it? I'm one of those friends who very strongly believe honesty is the best policy... but then you get into sticky situations where you have to really think about it. I've had to really think about it lately... my problems with Lauren... and I've opted for keeping it underwraps, b/c if I tell her... it won't solve anything, she won't listen anyways, and it would cause a huge amount of unneeded tension in that whole group of friends. To get to my point... honesty is always the best policy. But tact is incredibly important also. Must go. More later.