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jackofallgeeks) wrote2007-02-18 02:41 pm
jackofallgeeks) wrote2007-02-18 02:41 pm
Entry tags:
Catholic, not Fanatic
So, I just finished watching Clerks 2, and I really liked it. There were parts I didn't like -- as with any Kevin Smith movie (with that possible exceptions of Chasing Amy and/or Dogma) there are parts I could have done without. But I liked the movies, and I can look beyond the crass and vulgar exterior and appreciate them for what they say.
And this got me thinking.
I'm a Catholic guy. I'm hardly perfect, I mess up, but I define myself and set my priorities in great part on Catholic values. I'm looking for a Catholic girl, partly because I want to raise my family with the same values and feel that's not something I should be fighting my wife on, and because I'm honestly looking for someone who can help me work on the bits I mess up on. I'm not looking for perfect.
And maybe that's the point right there. But it occurred to me that I appreciate a lot of things that might be termed... 'besmirched,' for lack of a better word. My favorite movies include some that might be 'questionable' in content, like Saved or Dogma, though I'd hold that each of them contains real value. Saved makes an excellent point that it couldn't make without treading on proverbial thin ice.
And I'd like to think that I'd be able to find a nice Catholic girl who's intelligent enough to see that, to appreciate these things for what they're really saying rather than being turned off completely by how they're saying it. My old room mate is a great example of how to not do that -- he's a great guy, but he decided 5 minutes into "Garden State" that it had no value because it was just about losers and how their lives suck. Completely missing the point.
But... This is one of those things that worries me. I get scared, now and again, that I won't find the sort of girl I'm looking for because, even conceding that she could exist, the odds of finding her are just so small... An intelligent, Catholic girl who can appreciate these dappled things without compromising her truth who, by the way, wants to have a reasonable-sized family, with me specifically. That's a lot to ask, I think, and it's not even the full detail.
I think I've rambled sufficiently without really making my thoughts clear, so I'll end here.
And this got me thinking.
I'm a Catholic guy. I'm hardly perfect, I mess up, but I define myself and set my priorities in great part on Catholic values. I'm looking for a Catholic girl, partly because I want to raise my family with the same values and feel that's not something I should be fighting my wife on, and because I'm honestly looking for someone who can help me work on the bits I mess up on. I'm not looking for perfect.
And maybe that's the point right there. But it occurred to me that I appreciate a lot of things that might be termed... 'besmirched,' for lack of a better word. My favorite movies include some that might be 'questionable' in content, like Saved or Dogma, though I'd hold that each of them contains real value. Saved makes an excellent point that it couldn't make without treading on proverbial thin ice.
And I'd like to think that I'd be able to find a nice Catholic girl who's intelligent enough to see that, to appreciate these things for what they're really saying rather than being turned off completely by how they're saying it. My old room mate is a great example of how to not do that -- he's a great guy, but he decided 5 minutes into "Garden State" that it had no value because it was just about losers and how their lives suck. Completely missing the point.
But... This is one of those things that worries me. I get scared, now and again, that I won't find the sort of girl I'm looking for because, even conceding that she could exist, the odds of finding her are just so small... An intelligent, Catholic girl who can appreciate these dappled things without compromising her truth who, by the way, wants to have a reasonable-sized family, with me specifically. That's a lot to ask, I think, and it's not even the full detail.
I think I've rambled sufficiently without really making my thoughts clear, so I'll end here.
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