Yay, BulletPoints!

[jackofallgeeks]

I keep meaning to post and I never do. So, a quick run down, with bullet points!

This past weekend I felt inexpressibly happy. I think it has to do with the sun's return.

Tonight I'm feeling a touch sad. I'm not sure why. Part of my knows it would have been Amanda's birthday today, and I think that plays a part.

I still have no groceries.

I joined a dating site again probably about a month and change ago.

Dating sites seem to be accelerated, concentrated rejection.

I don't deal well with rejection.

This is, of course, focusing on the negative: I have a dinner-date tomorrow.

That's my first date since Laurel. Two years ago. And she initiated that one.

The last time I initiated a date was, like, four or five years ago.

Still, that's one connection out of 33 attempts. Poor hit ratio.

Yeah, I've tried contacting 33 girls in a month. What of it?

Like I said, accelerated. Leave me alone.

Talked with my informal mentor today about my potential career path. This made me very happy with my lot in the world.

My brother and his girlfriend 9who's awesome) are visiting this coming weekend.

I should sleep.

Comments

[jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com]

-smirk- Oh yes, I remember how you met Jessi. "You look like my ex-girlfriend" is usually considered a bad opening line, but I guess you got it to work, eh? -smirk-

But yeah, the fact that girls are bombarded on those sites is a recent revelation to me, but it makes complete sense. And while it's not an ideal situation, it's at least one that I can get my head around: I can understand job interviews. (It's generally how I've understood dating for years.) Though as far as persistence goes, do you mean continuing with the same girl (though not exclusively) until you get a response, or just not letting the rejection get you down? 'Cause i'm getting better at the latter, not so much the former.

[quix.livejournal.com]

*shakes head* Yeah, I still have no idea how she managed to look past that. :)

As for the persistence, I meant in the sense that in most cases you'll get little to no response from women on the dating sites, and that doesn't mean anything about you, just that they're not truly invested in the situation. So what I did, was to be persistant in keeping on trying to meet other women. I was never one for being persistant with one particular woman. If I didn't get the response I was looking for, I usually took that to mean there was no chance and moved on. I've learned since that that's not necessarily the case. Rejection always sucks. The only way I found to combat it was to tell myself that I wasn't looking for a long-term relationship so it "didn't really matter". If I treated the relationship lightly, it didn't sting so much when it fell through. And then if it did become serious, it was just a happy surprise. I don't know if that mental trickery will work for you, but there it is.