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jackofallgeeks) wrote2003-05-30 07:59 am
jackofallgeeks) wrote2003-05-30 07:59 am
Chains of Gold
I don't think I've posted anything of real value here recently...
Maybe my laments over Prom...
My parents questioned me this morning.
See, last night at dinner I told them that I was going down this Sunday evening to see Claire.
This means that I'm going to be missing a Family Get-Together, which I'm loathe to do.
But I told them I knew that, and the issue passed, the rest of dinner going as usual.
This morning I got up for work, which is the way things run.
Went downstairs and made my lunch and got breakfast...
As things were stretching on before time to leave, my mom asked me:
"So, if you and Claire have decided you have irreconcilable differences as concerns marriage, why are you still Seeing each other?"
The capital-S was strongly present.
"Because we haven't decided they're irreconcilable." I mumbled.
Correction, I haven't decided such. She may well be past that by now...
"You're not going to compromise your values, are you?"
The echoes of that are still ringing in my ears. No, of course not. I can't compromise who I am.
But the issue is that Elizabeth and I had been talking just the other night, and I said "Everyone makes compromises. It's just a matter of decided which things you can't let go."
I can physically feel it pulling at my bones.
The thing is, it's not a matter of how much I love her. We didn't break up because my affections or hers were brought into question. It wasn't so cut and dry as "I don't like you" or anything else so juvenile. The issue was in me. I can't but be a Catholic, and if Claire doesn't want a Catholic man...
I could be happy together with Claire if, and that's not fair to her.
I don't know... I want to be near to her, but I don't want to open old wounds...
Though, maybe I'm the only one who's going to be hurt...
Maybe my laments over Prom...
My parents questioned me this morning.
See, last night at dinner I told them that I was going down this Sunday evening to see Claire.
This means that I'm going to be missing a Family Get-Together, which I'm loathe to do.
But I told them I knew that, and the issue passed, the rest of dinner going as usual.
This morning I got up for work, which is the way things run.
Went downstairs and made my lunch and got breakfast...
As things were stretching on before time to leave, my mom asked me:
"So, if you and Claire have decided you have irreconcilable differences as concerns marriage, why are you still Seeing each other?"
The capital-S was strongly present.
"Because we haven't decided they're irreconcilable." I mumbled.
Correction, I haven't decided such. She may well be past that by now...
"You're not going to compromise your values, are you?"
The echoes of that are still ringing in my ears. No, of course not. I can't compromise who I am.
But the issue is that Elizabeth and I had been talking just the other night, and I said "Everyone makes compromises. It's just a matter of decided which things you can't let go."
I can physically feel it pulling at my bones.
The thing is, it's not a matter of how much I love her. We didn't break up because my affections or hers were brought into question. It wasn't so cut and dry as "I don't like you" or anything else so juvenile. The issue was in me. I can't but be a Catholic, and if Claire doesn't want a Catholic man...
I could be happy together with Claire if, and that's not fair to her.
I don't know... I want to be near to her, but I don't want to open old wounds...
Though, maybe I'm the only one who's going to be hurt...
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-laughs- Well, in this case, it was really only a couple of statements sent back and forth. It wasn't much of a discussion, really -- literally, what's been posted is all that was said. Though, yes, we do, given the ocation. ^_^ One of the coolest things about my parents is how much we can really talk about stuff, intellectual-like.
"I don't think your mom meant to hurt you when she said that"
Yeah, I know she didn't. She was just trying to make sure I was on the right track, or at the very least that I knew what I intended. It's what parents should do, I think. But in any case, I'm glad she did. Because it gives me more of a level perspective to view this from. Because, as we all know, emotions can not in any way affect one's judgement...
"Because if she doesn't, then you need to stop."
Yeah, I know that, too. And, maybe I'll finally satisfy myself this weekend and be done with it. There's so many 'half of the problem'-s in this situation, but I think one of then is I just haven't been able to really, I donno, settle things in my own mind.
"I assume when you say..."
Yeah. I never told you about this whole deal? ^_^;; I'm surprised. But, yeah, it's rather harsh...
"Never give up your priciples"
That comment alone (among other things, but this in particular) makes you Too Awesome. And yeah, I may very well already 'know' that, but sometimes it's good to be reminded.