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jackofallgeeks) wrote2003-01-14 11:46 pm
jackofallgeeks) wrote2003-01-14 11:46 pm
Claire, Amanda, and Moving On
Well, I think I want to share a bit more of the inner workings of my life with you people. Honesty's a good thing. I've always known that, but it's still difficult sometimes to say what it is I have to say. I've been learning recently though, thanks to Claire and Amanda, that I'll feel better if I just jump right in. Also, I would like to consider you all dear friends, and I would like to offer my support, but also feel I can ask for someone to be there when I need it, too. I'm not Superman, and I should hope it's not too much to ask that I not need to be him. To that effect, though, I should make an effort for you to understand how things are going, why they're going, and maybe the hardest part of all, where I would like them to go.
I wasn't going to cut this, because I'm always afraid people won't bother to read it if it's cut. I'm afraid it may get very long, though, so it may be best if you sit down.
First off, tonight. I said I got a kind letter from Claire, but I feel I should explain it a bit more. What had happened was that Claire and I were chatting, and to make a long story short, she said we should meet for a few hours when she came up here early in February instead of planning a weekend together in early March. Now, we all know how much I want to spend time with Claire, so I'll just say this kind of disappointed me, and I fear I made that evident to her, which I shouldn't have. After the fact (and before I wrote my entry for today) I regretted my behavior as thoughtless and selfish, and wrote her an e-mail appologizing. I told her how I'm always afraid that no one (not just her) wants my affection, and that there were times I feared she was just humoring me because I'm so pathetic. I know I'm clingy, and I hate it -- I'm trying as best I can to remedy that. I told her that I'm really trying to just 'be friends,' and all I want now is to be able to talk with her about everything and nothing the way I can chat with Leslie or Rachel.We would all catch the lie if I said anything but that I still care deeply for her, and hope I always should. I want her to be happy, and I want to be a part of her life. My goal is to get to the point where I'm concentrating more on the former and less on the latter.
Additionally, I'd told her of how it bothers me when I write an e-mail, particularly one that I bare my heart in, and don't hear back. It's a scar from Ms. Croft which I'm still nursing. I just get nervous when I say something and don't hear what's happening on the other side of the fence. I don't mean to ask alot, and I don't -expect- a reply even to every soul-searching e-mail. Just a little consideration to ease my little mind. This is why her e-mail was so kind and so appreciated. As I said before, it takes an amount of effort on my side to express myself. Anyways, in her reply she appologized for not being there for me (though she has been, and I thank her) and expressed a desire to see me next accademic year when she's (God willing) at Maryland.
Anyways, as a matter of fact I am moving beyond Claire, slowly but surely. I don't know that I ever want to be without her, but I'm learning to deal apart from her. To that effect, I've been pursuing Amanda for at least a couple months now. It's... odd. I sorta knew the girl once, but not really. She's my friend Sara's little sister, which seems weird in my head, but... We get along nicely. We've had alot of really good chats, and we feel the same way about alot of different things. She says that I'm cute (though agrees that I NEVER change), and she really likes that I can make her laugh, which I appreciate. Sara informs me that Amanda has a crush on me, as well, so who knows. The two sisters have, however, seemed to have a falling out since Sara's situation became as it is -- at least on Amanda's side, so I would appreciate it if no one mentioned that to Sara. Amanda still likes her sister, and talks about her from time to time, but she gets... distant, too, at other times. Anyways, Amanda's really fun to talk to, and she makes me feel good -- she gives me the same old lines that I've always gotten, but... The only thing is... Well, I've always thought she was cute, as I've mentioned on occation, and she says she's alot prettier than when I knew her. She says she's 5'10", though, which is... odd as I've never gone for tall girls. I don't know. Additionally, over the break, we had some really... slow conversations on the phone. I think that might just have been from having -nothing- interesting to say, and the time gap,. as we've been fine on the phone recently. If nothing else, she confirms what Rachel and Leslie and Kate and Mere and Oli and everyone has been telling me from the start -- there will be some girl out there somewhere who I can be happy with, and who will be happy with me. "If it's not alright, then it's not the end."
Though, I do wonder, might I be destined for the priesthood? Go ahead, laugh, I rather have suspicions no one here would take that seriously, but... why not? Think about it, I'm full of affection, and I want to have a deep faith. I don't think it's the way I should go, and I know that the one thing I've always wanted is to have a wife and family, but... Do I have the friends who would support me if that were the road I took?
Heh, I've just realized I'm leaving this open to Nifer. I confess, I'm afraid to tell her a great deal of this, mostly things about Claire and religion, because I'm afraid she may think less of me. As a rule, I generally don't care what people think of me, but an exception is drawn for those who I admire and care for. Honesty's a good thing. Honesty's a good thing...
There have been a number of other girls aside from Claire and Amanda who have made me feel nice, as well. My three lovely cousins aside, and discounting both Megan and Mel simply because, it leaves Olivia, Kim, and Liz. Of the three, Oli and Liz I've only talked to in passing lately, as neither one is on much. Kim, however... We've talked on occation, and I would even dare say flirted. I know I was flirting, at least, which is almost a first for me (I've been told a number of times that I was flirting, but it's only been recently that I've ever done it conciously). In anycase, it made me feel really good, and she's a really nice girl in and of herself, anyways. Thanbks to her and Louis I'm planning to drop quite a bit of money into Katsucon, if I can. kim said she wanted to see me in my Leather Pants again (my own little guilty pleasure, I guess) and I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to see her in that skirt again. It was nice to see her happy. Sadly, though, she's been really broken up recently -- her ex-boyfriend has apparently gotten a 'new' girl, and she's still really stuck on him. addmittedly it strikes a cord with me, and i'm upset that she's so miserable. >_< I hope she does OK.
Anyways, in the spirit of this renewwed openness that I'm going for (and because I need to open things to Mere anyways) I'm going through all my old posts and rethinking who should seen them. Some of them I locked at the time because people didn't need to see it then, but now... Some friends-only may become Open, and I may unlock a few of my other posts to you all. I admittedly don't have alot locked, but just incase anyone was ever interested in reading my old entries.
And so, I'm done! Whee. I'll go do someting now. -nods to this-
I wasn't going to cut this, because I'm always afraid people won't bother to read it if it's cut. I'm afraid it may get very long, though, so it may be best if you sit down.
First off, tonight. I said I got a kind letter from Claire, but I feel I should explain it a bit more. What had happened was that Claire and I were chatting, and to make a long story short, she said we should meet for a few hours when she came up here early in February instead of planning a weekend together in early March. Now, we all know how much I want to spend time with Claire, so I'll just say this kind of disappointed me, and I fear I made that evident to her, which I shouldn't have. After the fact (and before I wrote my entry for today) I regretted my behavior as thoughtless and selfish, and wrote her an e-mail appologizing. I told her how I'm always afraid that no one (not just her) wants my affection, and that there were times I feared she was just humoring me because I'm so pathetic. I know I'm clingy, and I hate it -- I'm trying as best I can to remedy that. I told her that I'm really trying to just 'be friends,' and all I want now is to be able to talk with her about everything and nothing the way I can chat with Leslie or Rachel.We would all catch the lie if I said anything but that I still care deeply for her, and hope I always should. I want her to be happy, and I want to be a part of her life. My goal is to get to the point where I'm concentrating more on the former and less on the latter.
Additionally, I'd told her of how it bothers me when I write an e-mail, particularly one that I bare my heart in, and don't hear back. It's a scar from Ms. Croft which I'm still nursing. I just get nervous when I say something and don't hear what's happening on the other side of the fence. I don't mean to ask alot, and I don't -expect- a reply even to every soul-searching e-mail. Just a little consideration to ease my little mind. This is why her e-mail was so kind and so appreciated. As I said before, it takes an amount of effort on my side to express myself. Anyways, in her reply she appologized for not being there for me (though she has been, and I thank her) and expressed a desire to see me next accademic year when she's (God willing) at Maryland.
Anyways, as a matter of fact I am moving beyond Claire, slowly but surely. I don't know that I ever want to be without her, but I'm learning to deal apart from her. To that effect, I've been pursuing Amanda for at least a couple months now. It's... odd. I sorta knew the girl once, but not really. She's my friend Sara's little sister, which seems weird in my head, but... We get along nicely. We've had alot of really good chats, and we feel the same way about alot of different things. She says that I'm cute (though agrees that I NEVER change), and she really likes that I can make her laugh, which I appreciate. Sara informs me that Amanda has a crush on me, as well, so who knows. The two sisters have, however, seemed to have a falling out since Sara's situation became as it is -- at least on Amanda's side, so I would appreciate it if no one mentioned that to Sara. Amanda still likes her sister, and talks about her from time to time, but she gets... distant, too, at other times. Anyways, Amanda's really fun to talk to, and she makes me feel good -- she gives me the same old lines that I've always gotten, but... The only thing is... Well, I've always thought she was cute, as I've mentioned on occation, and she says she's alot prettier than when I knew her. She says she's 5'10", though, which is... odd as I've never gone for tall girls. I don't know. Additionally, over the break, we had some really... slow conversations on the phone. I think that might just have been from having -nothing- interesting to say, and the time gap,. as we've been fine on the phone recently. If nothing else, she confirms what Rachel and Leslie and Kate and Mere and Oli and everyone has been telling me from the start -- there will be some girl out there somewhere who I can be happy with, and who will be happy with me. "If it's not alright, then it's not the end."
Though, I do wonder, might I be destined for the priesthood? Go ahead, laugh, I rather have suspicions no one here would take that seriously, but... why not? Think about it, I'm full of affection, and I want to have a deep faith. I don't think it's the way I should go, and I know that the one thing I've always wanted is to have a wife and family, but... Do I have the friends who would support me if that were the road I took?
Heh, I've just realized I'm leaving this open to Nifer. I confess, I'm afraid to tell her a great deal of this, mostly things about Claire and religion, because I'm afraid she may think less of me. As a rule, I generally don't care what people think of me, but an exception is drawn for those who I admire and care for. Honesty's a good thing. Honesty's a good thing...
There have been a number of other girls aside from Claire and Amanda who have made me feel nice, as well. My three lovely cousins aside, and discounting both Megan and Mel simply because, it leaves Olivia, Kim, and Liz. Of the three, Oli and Liz I've only talked to in passing lately, as neither one is on much. Kim, however... We've talked on occation, and I would even dare say flirted. I know I was flirting, at least, which is almost a first for me (I've been told a number of times that I was flirting, but it's only been recently that I've ever done it conciously). In anycase, it made me feel really good, and she's a really nice girl in and of herself, anyways. Thanbks to her and Louis I'm planning to drop quite a bit of money into Katsucon, if I can. kim said she wanted to see me in my Leather Pants again (my own little guilty pleasure, I guess) and I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to see her in that skirt again. It was nice to see her happy. Sadly, though, she's been really broken up recently -- her ex-boyfriend has apparently gotten a 'new' girl, and she's still really stuck on him. addmittedly it strikes a cord with me, and i'm upset that she's so miserable. >_< I hope she does OK.
Anyways, in the spirit of this renewwed openness that I'm going for (and because I need to open things to Mere anyways) I'm going through all my old posts and rethinking who should seen them. Some of them I locked at the time because people didn't need to see it then, but now... Some friends-only may become Open, and I may unlock a few of my other posts to you all. I admittedly don't have alot locked, but just incase anyone was ever interested in reading my old entries.
And so, I'm done! Whee. I'll go do someting now. -nods to this-
Glad t'hear it. ^_~
No, it's actually really nice to hear from you guys. I have the utmost respect for the Priesthood, and I may take that path were I to ever be a Widower. I'm just really, really set to be a Family man right now, and I can't imagine how hard to would be to juggle all the responsibilities of a Father, a Husband, and a Priest.
-looks to the heavens worriedly- Not, uhm, that i'm writing it off or anything. ^_^;;
It's all you, Big Guy. Really. ^_^;;