Reminder: I met Jess on OKCupid. That said, the odds on ANY dating site for guys is pretty miserable. Girls get TONS of people contacting them, so it's really like an interview process where the guy is the interviewee and the girl is interviewer. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do them, it simply means you need to be persistant. Oh, and if you initiate contact do more then simply say "Hi, you seem interesting, do you think I'm interesting?" Try to catch their attention (again, akin to job interview I suppose *shrugs*).