The way I was raised says that is just simply isn't proper
Many things which should have been done have not been done out of fear of impropriety. The meeting fo a close friend should not be one of those things.
Though it may have been the case in, say, the 1800's that someone meeting with a member of the opposite sex was highly suspect, this is the frickin' 2000's, and society is alot more tolerant (in some cases, I would say too tolerant, but that's another subject).
It must be kept in mind that there are essentially two aspects to a meeting. The internal and the external. The internal being that which is perceived by those meeting, the external being that perceived by witnesses thereof. the more important, and the most True, of these two aspects is the internal. Regardless of appearences, if the meeting is internally non-romantic, then it is non-romantic.
However, alongside this, it must be said that appearences do affect society, like it or not. And so, a certain amount of awareness should be lent towards how a given meeting appears to the unbiased observer. No sense needlessly arousing the gossip mill.
All that aside, in this relationship in question, that is, the one between You and Meghan, there seems to be a lot of work that still needs to be done. Not to say that she is not the "right girl," simply that she is not fully prepared to be so.
I hold no such irrational, or fantastical, opinion that there is a "right girl," "soulmate," "one," or what have you. What I mean is that anyone can be the "right one," so long as a proper relationship exists between the two--that is, You and the "right one." This is something which can and, indeed, must be nutured and developed; there is no such thing as "love at first sight," nor even at second sight.
Some have said she has an unhealthy idea of what a "marriagescent" relationship is supposed be like; I just think she's not quite ready.
That said, I think, if your serious about this relationship, there's still more time that needs to be given for it to develop, and it'd be the best thing for you to do to just be patient and give it time.
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Many things which should have been done have not been done out of fear of impropriety. The meeting fo a close friend should not be one of those things.
Though it may have been the case in, say, the 1800's that someone meeting with a member of the opposite sex was highly suspect, this is the frickin' 2000's, and society is alot more tolerant (in some cases, I would say too tolerant, but that's another subject).
It must be kept in mind that there are essentially two aspects to a meeting. The internal and the external. The internal being that which is perceived by those meeting, the external being that perceived by witnesses thereof. the more important, and the most True, of these two aspects is the internal. Regardless of appearences, if the meeting is internally non-romantic, then it is non-romantic.
However, alongside this, it must be said that appearences do affect society, like it or not. And so, a certain amount of awareness should be lent towards how a given meeting appears to the unbiased observer. No sense needlessly arousing the gossip mill.
All that aside, in this relationship in question, that is, the one between You and Meghan, there seems to be a lot of work that still needs to be done. Not to say that she is not the "right girl," simply that she is not fully prepared to be so.
I hold no such irrational, or fantastical, opinion that there is a "right girl," "soulmate," "one," or what have you. What I mean is that anyone can be the "right one," so long as a proper relationship exists between the two--that is, You and the "right one." This is something which can and, indeed, must be nutured and developed; there is no such thing as "love at first sight," nor even at second sight.
Some have said she has an unhealthy idea of what a "marriagescent" relationship is supposed be like; I just think she's not quite ready.
That said, I think, if your serious about this relationship, there's still more time that needs to be given for it to develop, and it'd be the best thing for you to do to just be patient and give it time.