jackofallgeeks: (Chivalrous)
John Noble ([personal profile] jackofallgeeks) wrote2003-12-27 03:10 pm

Quote of the Day

Prester Scott: People who can only think of sexuality when they think of love are beneath contempt.

I just wanted to point out that, yes! Love does not have to be sexual to be real and meaningful, and the one does not imply the other. This is a point that I hold to, and try to convey. Love does not have to be erotic.

[identity profile] ambereternal.livejournal.com 2003-12-27 07:16 pm (UTC)(link)
At the risk of starting a debate here, I have to argue that it depends on the type of love to which you are referring. The love between a husband and wife is designed to be, and should be, sexual in some sense. Granted, it's not the most important part of that relationship, and I don't want you to think that I'm implying that. But I do believe that a marriage that has a healthy sexual aspect is healthier in every other respect. On the same token, the relationship MUST be healthy in EVERY other aspect if it is to be healthy sexually. Does that make any sense, or am I just totally insane?

[identity profile] jackofallgeeks.livejournal.com 2003-12-27 09:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, Tink, I think it's an interesting argument, but... Well, regardless of the intimacy between a man and a woman in marriage or what have you, and though it may be conceeded that a healthy sex life helps the relationship.... -shrugs- Aside from, as I said, sex as an expression of affection, I'm not sure there's much more to it. The sex isn't inrisically necessary to the love, if you will.

Of course, being as I'm an unmarried man and always have been, I'm not sure how qualified I am to comment.

This is kinda embarrassing...

[identity profile] masqerade.livejournal.com 2003-12-28 08:52 pm (UTC)(link)
considering you are my brother, but i just felt the need to reply to this...The way I see it is that sex in marriage is just icing on the cake. If there is nothing besides sex then it is a very empty relationship, and if you expect sex at a certain time or a certain amount of times in any given month(or week) that just cheapens the relationship. Sex is just the ultimate giving of yourself to your spouse. It should be completely giving with no expectations. I do agree that marriage needs sex, the reason being that it is the ultimate selfgiving act(and gift) that a married couple can give to eachother; it envolves complete trust. I think I have said everything clearly.